When To Breakup With Boyfriend ?
A relationship between two people can survive if there is seriousness, honesty and commitment. Merely trying to pull on the relationship taking it in a casual manner will end up in a situation of hurt feelings and disappointment. If you are dating to find a perfect husband, then it is essential that you have a formal discussion on this. This is not possible at the initial stage or during first few dates but it is essential that this should be discussed at a later date so that things are clear.
It is necessary to understand and find out the intentions of your boyfriend, for this serious discussion is important. Initial period of about six months is sufficient for preliminary understanding. If on discussion it is found that your boyfriend is not serious to settle down with you in life as wished by you, it is better to break up early than trying to pull the affair further, thinking there can be change of mind of your boyfriend. Prolonging the matter longer and cherishing a hope will lead to more pain later.
Another reason to breakup with your boyfriend is if he is not considerate to you and is abusive. Abusiveness can be either physical or emotional. Physical abusiveness is such that it should not be ignored at any cost. You should maintain your dignity and self respect, relationship is secondary. In the event of physical abuse, despite showing of remorse by your boyfriend, serious thought should be given to continuation of relationship. In such cases utmost care should be taken when to tell the other of the intention to end the relationship. Never discuss it in secluded or dark place. If your boyfriend gets furious it will not be difficult to cause injury to you in such a place. Select a place where you can expect help from other people in case of need and be prepared to call the police or seek help of appropriate authorities.
Existence of trust in relationship is the essence of its long term continuance. Marriage between the two strangers is establishment of trust. If there is honesty, trust and faithfulness the couple can lead a very happy life. After a few initial dates, judge whether you trust your boyfriend fully. If there is some suspicion try to clarify. Once you are clear in your mind, try to read the mind of your boyfriend to ascertain if he trusts you like you trust him. In case of some doubts be honest and clear. If other person is serious there will be no problem. There is no fun in love between two people if there is lack of trust. In this situation it is better to break up sooner than later as it will be less painful.