What Makes A Successful Marriage ?
In today’s life which is full of tensions, problems and materialism, when everyone is running after success and money, marriage a solemn binding of two souls, is often not given the importance that is needed to make it successful. Due to lack of time to be together, and understand the problems of the other, differences often creep up and a large number of couples try to find the solution in divorce. This is not a good idea and a chance should be given to arrive at an understanding to make marriage successful.
Marriage is a binding in which both take a vow to live together and look after the other till death. For successful marriage there should be commitment. Both should have faith in one another. Faith adds to the security, and this sense of security helps reduce chances of differences creeping up, an essential for successful marriage.
Men often talk less as compared to women. This results in development of feeling in the mind of wife that she is not taken seriously. The object is to listen to the other and help in resolution of some question in the mind of the other. The problem can be thrashed out and resolved amicably. Small things should not be considered as complaint by one against the other. They should be taken in the sense that they are being discussed for resolution. Healthy discussion is better but sometimes resolution without discussion is also good for successful marriage.
In every relationship both the participants should be given their space. If the husband is late, wife should not start questioning the moment he arrives but should try to give a peaceful atmosphere to make him have some rest and be relaxed, thereafter she may ask the reason of his being late. Similarly, women feel that they do everything for the husband but they do not get any help from him, though the husband may be thinking that he is doing his part of duty by working and earning. Due to non clarification differences may creep up. It is better that she directly asks for help, and most probably she will get better help than expected without grudges.
Never think that the other person will behave in a particular manner according to your notion of right and wrong. Do not enter into unnecessary arguments. A person with whom you live all the time and have most intimate relationship must know you well. Even a mistake here and there by any one should not be taken by the other seriously. Be honest, faithful, caring, loving, understanding, spending time together for successful marriage.
In the event of differences, go in for counselling together.