Selection Between Husband And Affair

Extramarital affair is associated with sex outside marriage and it involves married woman and another married or unmarried man. Generally, when a woman decides to have extramarital affair, it can be to find satisfaction outside marriage, or there can be many other reasons for this. Choice between husband and affair is a difficult decision for a married woman. Many factors have to be kept in mind which may include children, financial status and length of married life.

While deciding to have an affair, a woman is guided by a number of factors, foremost being home environment. If wife is often abused both physically and mentally, she may try to find peace of mind and security in an affair. Also safety and well being of children plays an important part. If wife has happy environment at home and safety and well being of her children is assured, there should be no reason to have an affair outside marriage.

Age of children is a deciding factor. Children in teens will find it difficult to adjust with the affair of the mother and she is bound to lose respect in their mind. Even children who are not teenagers yet, but may be mature mentally, will find it difficult to adjust with foster father and may fall in bad company.

Sex in marriage is also a deciding factor. Affair for sexual satisfaction cannot compensate for the love and happiness she is getting from husband and children. Absence of sex in marriage will have to be weighed carefully and rationally against other factors and it would be sensible to go in for counselling to give the marriage another chance. If the husband has large property or income by indulging in an affair, she may lose her right to it. If the wife has earned and saved money after marriage, and if found indulging in an affair, she may have to share her property with her husband, and may also be legally liable to pay maintenance to husband.

If the reason is non compatibility it is better to go in for counselling. Many a times counseling will help resolve the differences. In case it is not possible to reconcile, then dissolving the marriage and thereafter going in for an affair can be a better option. It is not worthwhile and cannot be justified by any reason if the affair is for fun and satisfaction of lust.