How To Save Marriage After Husband’s Affair ?
Marriage is a solemn happening in the life of two strangers, who decide to unite for the remaining part of their lives, and take care of the other through thick and thin. They also vow to fulfil all needs of the other and be faithful till end of life. In a successful marriage, despite some small differences here and there, both the partners lead a happy life by adopting the principle of reconciliation.
Despite the will to forget and forgive the other over small issues, cheating by the husband is one thing which is most difficult for the wife to forget and forgive. Study has revealed that about half of men in USA have extra marital affair, consequently about half of the married women have to face this reality, in some cases they themselves are involved in such an affair. The desire in men to have extramarital sex can be attributed to a number of reasons like domestic situation or chance sexual encounter which continued. Mere fact that men have more sex desire as compared to the women cannot be an excuse to cheat. As per study, infidelity of wife is said to be a reason cited for extramarital affair, though without justification.
Once known, it is difficult for the wife to forget this and lead a normal married life. Though infidelity by any one will most probably end in dissolved or strained marriage, still combined efforts of both can help save marriage. This can be achieved by open hearted discussion between the partners, with a will to forget and forgive, but both should have desire to continue in marriage.
Whatever is the reason or the problem, in marriage cheating is no answer. For reconciliation to begin, husband should accept the wrong doing and should take the responsibility to assure the wife that he will not indulge in such an act again. Similarly a man who blames his wife for infidelity and makes it an excuse for his wrong will never be in a position to save his married life. Coming out with the truth and accepting the guilt will help, wrongly denying the affair will lead to more disputes and misunderstanding. Instead of showing remorse at what has happened trying to cover it up with expensive gifts and dates will never help.
Another way to save the marriage can be through marriage counselling. Going to an expert and discussing the problem with an open mind can help arrive at settlement and restart of married life. If any party is not willing to go to a counsellor it means that he or she is not willing to continue.